Small European people

Following last week’s column, I received lots of emails from female readers with small children who live locally. These young mothers are finding it difficult to acclimatise in Ireland. They spend all day with the children, going for a walk, going to the swimming pool, going for trips outside town and waiting, and waiting, for Daddy to come home.             I don’t have children (yet), but I see how this looks because I have a lot of friends who are parents. Mother and children feel more and more separated from the community each day. In Roscommon, it’s not the worst, because, with the internet, single mothers can find other mothers, kids can play together and the mothers can bask in the sun and have a chat (while holding the umbrellas!).             They can share experiences and speak about the situations they find difficult. But we can’t forget that Polish people also live outside the town. Their situation is much worse. It’s not too bad if they have TV with Polish programmes, but if not, the day can be very long. Ideas for home play are all used up and walking alone can be really depressing. The mother starts to worry that the children don’t have any contact with other children of their own age and at home, the discussion has already started about going back to Poland. I don’t have to explain how this conversation usually ends.             Another type of mother is the working mother. A lot of my friends try to find a compromise between making money and spending time with the children. From the stories I hear, it’s not too easy and this situation is far from perfect. Polish mothers, they are not used to having a baby sitter. I don’t know if that’s a good or bad thing. If they decide to have one, usually it’s a Polish girl and it’s best if they are a friend of a friend. But, I know one great thing, it’s a change.             My friend Anna (Hi Anna) is a mother of two children and she has overcome her childcare problems by teaming up with a friend. The two synchronise their work schedules, so that one is off at all times. The kids are happy because they don’t have to spend a lot of time with the ‘staruchow’ (old folks) and that woman has a little rest.             I suppose that the perfect arrangement is an integrated kindergarden. Parents don’t have to worry about the children because they have professional care. Also, after some time, we can practise our English (kids pick it up very quickly). Because sometimes, we can be really ashamed if we can’t understand what our children are saying to John or Mary. Children have an opportunity to see different cultures and respect that. Because who will build the new Poland, whenever that will be, if not our children? PS: Authorities take note: what’s needed is a eurokindergarden! Mali europejczycy! Ostatnio dostaj? wiele maili od czytelniczek, które przebywaj? w Irlandii z ma?ymi dzie?mi. M?ode lub troch? starsze mamy nie do ko?ca jeszcze zaaklimatyzowane na wyspie sp?dzaj? ca?e dnie ze swoimi pociechami. Spacery, basen, wycieczka poza miasto i to ci?g?e czekanie a? tatu? wróci z pracy. Sama nie mam (jeszcze) dzieci, ale widz? jak to wygl?da obserwuj?c znajomych mi rodziców. Matka plus dziecko z dnia na dzie? czuj? si? coraz bardziej odseparowane od spo?ecze?stwa. W Roscommon jeszcze nie jest najgorzej. Poprzez Internet mo?na porozumie? si? z innymi matkami. Dzieci mog? pobawi? si? razem a one wygrzewaj?c si? w s?oneczku (raczej bardzo prawdopodobne, ?e chowaj?ce si? pod parasolem